I have learned in life that all the choices I made in the past, whether good or bad at that time, will eventually all become good and that it will constantly mold me until probably the day I die. It's extremely funny (at least for silly me) to think and realize how many times I had cried over multiple guys I dated in the past and how my parents used to tell me that they weren't worth it at all. My young and naive self, of course, didn't know it at that time so I did kick and stomp and cry some more until I was all dried up or as soon the next guy comes along. Prayers were also in abundance at that time asking for answers and I couldn't help but doubt at that time if God was even listening. It was a cycle -- I get burned, cry, recover, repeat...

Years Later

It wasn’t easy and I took a lot of detours but I eventually stopped revisiting the past in my head and started living vivaciously and in the moment and seeing the amazing things in my current situation.

joycedz-bwca-5 joycedz-bwca-15 BWCA. Boundary Waters Canoe Area, Minnesota, MNStateParks, OnlyinMn

The detours eventually became scenic routes and everything seems to now have directions or gets done with purpose.


Those unanswered prayers have been forgotten as I now go through life with someone with equal if not more passion than I do.

"When you let go, you give yourself peace"

And then one day, years later, God gave me a very loud and distinct affirmation of his Love for me. Without putting anyone in trouble, let’s just say, my parents were so right and that, what had happened long time ago was actually a great blessing in disguise. Even if I failed to see it earlier, I was very fortunate enough (with a lot of help from friends and family) to get unstuck and let go which actually paved way to a very happy life instead of a miserable, messed-up one. "To God be the glory for the things He has done."

What about you? What areas in your life you are having a hard time letting go? Do you have tips for people to make letting go so much easier? How about sharing life's blessings in disguise? Please leave me a comment.

** All photos were taken last 2008 from a 7-day first BWCA trip as a Mrs. Z. 🙂

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  1. Stef March 27, 2014 Reply

    Beautifully written. I <3 that song too btw. Trials and failures are what humbles and molds us to a better person…and what ultimately makes us successful. I find that prayer paired with determination (in matters such as letting go) never seem to fail me.

    • Joyce DZ
      JoyceDZ March 28, 2014 Reply

      Thank you for sharing. I put this song on repeat during tough times. I used to cry listening to it. 🙂

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